BIW Versus Couples' Tats

Leeann Rimes recently got her wedding vows tattooed on her upper back/side area just under her arm... So what does a Bossy Italian Wife think of such a thing? Well, I am married, and I certainly think that my husband and I are going to be together for the long haul, but would I get a permanent artwork on my body to signify our union? The answer is no.

If you ask me, getting a couples tattoo seems like the kiss of death for a relationship... and even if it isn’t an immediate sign the relationship may be doomed, it seems like a desperate attempt to solidify something you should just be able to feel in your heart.

My three tats on my foot

Now don’t go thinking I am all against tattoos or anything---I actually have three tattoos on my foot, and I actually have the same tattoo as another person: my mother. Call it cheesy, but I think it’s kind of cool. My mom and I got matching tattoos of three of the 7 Indian Chakras meaning health, love, and spiritual enlightenment. But that’s my mom--we are never breaking up!!!

I also know a group of friends who call themselves “the rounders” and they all have matching tattoos (also on their feet) that are tasteful and small. Again, though, these are friends. Love is a different beast altogether... even the most permanent unions can crumble under unexpected circumstance and/or behavior. People can be unpredictable, what can I say?

I have known so many people who have gotten tattoos of their boyfriend or girlfriend’s name and then [somewhere along the way] they broke up. Then they’ve got this awful thing to look at--this tattoo that stares them in the face day in and day out. Sure, you can get it covered over with another tattoo, or even get it removed, but you will still know exactly why that scar or other tattoo is there, and it’s like to serve as a constant reminder of things that went sour.

But what about just matching tattoos, you ask? What if they don’t have names on them or anything like that? I have contemplated this before, and I think it’s better than getting your wedding vows, your husband’s name, or even a cheesy ass picture of your lover. Still, when it comes to your body, you really gotta take care and make sure you get something that you will love--no matter what.

There is nothing wrong with being crazy in love with your boyfriend, husband, or significant other. In fact, it’s wonderful to be crazy in love. But before you get a tattoo, think of the “what if” scenarios that could happen.... what if you break up? Will you someday still love that work of art if that were the case? If the answer is yes, then I guess you could go with it. But if the answer is no, then don't do it.