10 Songs For Relationship Rough Patches

Now don't get all freaked out...I am not having a bad time in my relationships or anything. However, every longterm relationship comes with its rough patches, and I am not immune. That being said, I was thinking the other day about some of the songs I like to listen to when I am in a rough patch, and I thought some of you out there might like to hear about it.

So, in no particular order, here are ten of my favorites. Help me add to the list in the comments section below, or heck, just leave a comment telling me what you thought of this post!


Shake It Out by Florence & The Machine 
When Florence sings, “It’s always darkest before the dawn” it gives me hope no matter what my dark moment is...it can be relationship or otherwise, but I feel like it’s a great song chocked full of inspiration.

I Won’t Give Up by Jason Mraz 
Once I played this song for a friend of mine and she was just like, “I hate this cheesy crap” and that pretty much sums it up. I love this cheesy crap, though. This is the perfect song when you need hit the point home to yourself that you aren’t giving up, and let’s face it, sometimes you need that!

Tides by The XX 
Everything by The XX is great, but this song strikes me in an especially vulnerable spot and it’s a great song that tugs at my heartstrings. The lyrics are especially magical. Just listen to it and you’ll know.

Stay by Rhianna featuring Mikky Ekko
To me this song is like, “I’m sad and maybe a little mad, but I just want you.” It’s this bittersweet sad and perfect for a relationship rough patch.

(Everything I Do) I Do It For You by Bryan Adams
This one is especially great when you are certain you are right in any given situation and want to lay the pity party on thick for yourself...and don’t even try to say you haven’t had a moment like that because if you haven’t, well, darling, then you just haven’t been in love!

Cry Me A River by Dinah Washington or Justin Timberlake (your choice) 
Either song will get you there is you are pissed off and looking to express it. However, for those of you unfamiliar, they are totally different. Timberlake’s version is more the dancy version of pissed and Washington’s version is the “so what” version of it. Me? I go for both; just know that these songs thread dangerously close to "break up song" territory. You've been warned.

I Get Lost by Eric Clapton 
Great for when you have reached a point where you might be able to concede you both had a little responsibility...it’s the tender spot in process and this song really captures that moment. Plus, it’s Eric Clapton, and it sounds kind of a sexy in a way that says “I’m sorry, can we work this out?”

Let’s Stay Together by Al Green 
Classic, and good in two scenarios: A) You are so angry that you need to be backed off the cliff and remember that you actually love the person or B) You are ready to get in there in and say the words, “let’s stay together.”

River by Joni Mitchell 
When you’ve screwed up and you just can’t stand yourself...and you’re in a relationship, this is the song for you. Perfectly sad without being too focused on the pity party, it’s the perfect way to hate yourself with a beautiful melody.

Listen To Your Heart by Roxette 
I couldn’t leave out this totally awesome 80s heart jam, could I? It’s a hopeful love song with a sad, if not hopeful, twist. “Listen to your heart, there’s nothing else you can do.”